I have no claim to be perfect and I, like others, have to be reminded from time to time to use words that show respect to others. Old-fashion courtesy has faded away to be replaced with self-centered focus. A self-centered attitude has made our nation into a turbulent, dangerous culture of crime, hate and creed. It all evolves around culture.

Our country was founded on principles from the Bible. If we were to look into the lives of our founding fathers, we would see that most had a solid faith and characters of real integrity. Benjamin Franklin once said, "Speak modestly do not put self above others, do not be easily offended, do not retaliate injuries, try not to offend others, look for the good in both friend and foe, be cheerful and pleasant, and freely express affection to friends and loved ones".

"Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness you have good manners no matter what fork you use" -- Emily Post

I guess I am getting older but I find myself looking and listening to how people in general ~ especially teenagers - talk to each other. What ever happened to "please" and "thank you?" Or the gentleman opening car doors for ladies or allowing the lady to enter first? What happened to letting the gentleman call or pursue the lady instead of the "Sadie Hawkins" style?

As I thought and researched about the origin of manners I came to conclusion that the source of manners is God, the Creator of all things. "In the beginning God created (Genesis 1:1)

So what are manners? Manners are the outward expression of a person's inner character. It is the way you present yourself to others.

I wondered what the Bible had to say about common courtesy and manners. 1 Peter 2:17 tells us to show respect to everyone; 2 Corinthians says to excel in the grace of giving. Be kind and compassionate is Ephesians 4:32. Speak words that build others up is found in Ephesians 4:29. Deny ourselves to follow Christ's example (Luke 9:23-26). Honor parents and authorities is Ephesians 6:1-3, 5-8.

We have to remember that our speech reflects our heart. "From our abundance of the heart the mouth speaks" (Matthew 12:34).

If you can't say anything nice is an old adage but it is good advice for today.

When we teach manners to our children, we have the opportunity to nurture such important qualities as empathy, caring, respect, and self-discipline. People are more responsive and nicer when you offer a good word and polite jesters. When teaching at an early age, we need to explain what they mean and why they are important. We need to model the behavior we are trying to teach. As I mentioned earlier, I am just as guilty as the next about forgetting to "show my manners." We need to gently, respectfully and politely remind that words can change our lives if they are the right words.